To raise a child is to let go

A Letter to my older self Dear Mamma, I know it’s hard to see your Little Peanut 🥜 set off towards this new life milestone which would take him farther away from you. He grew up so fast. Wasn’t it yesterday that his life depended on you; that only you knew what his every cry meant?…

MOTHERHOOD IS A BIG ENOUGH JOB, THERE, I HAVE SAID IT.

No one tells you that motherhood is a job enough, you don’t need to do more to prove yourself. That the piece of flesh and bones that you carried, fed, bathed, cleaned, taught, cared and teared for, is worth the earning of a lifetime. That it is not mere profits that you raised, you raised a…

Cloth Diapering 101: Why we need to re-think disposable diapers

  Let me start by celebrating you, yes you, for being such an amazing Mamma. You are doing a terrific job at raising your child, and I feel you for all your sacrifices whether they are appreciated or not- skipped meals, sleepless nights, tangled hair, crazy chore-work-life balance and most importantly the tremendous love that…

The thing about Morocco

The smell of freshly fried parathas stuffed with a mix of squarely sliced onions and red chilies 🌶 churned my baby bump as we walked through the streets of Marakkesh. We turned at each other with salivating delight. We had been advised to eat where the locals eat and that we had been seeking diligently, although…

Prioritize Spouse-hood over Parenthood

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ I love the wedding season. Not because of its glitters and glamour, but because I know of the treasures of love and companionship that two lovebirds are going to unravel in the days to come. So exciting! This season, as many of my friends are tying the knot, and we are…

To shake or not to shake hands

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ Mr. Interviewer/ Colleague/Tenant/ Pest control : “Hi Nusrat! Pleasure meeting you!” *extends his hand* Me:  HOW on earth am I even supposed to say that I can’t shake hands with the opposite gender, without being rude, obnoxious, sexist and ‘the other’? No other fractions of a second used to drive me as crazy,…

Culture, Religion & Honor Killings

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ I invite you to sit back and be prepared to come out of your comfort zones; for all that can be said, this is not an easy discussion to have. The Oxford dictionary defines ‘culture’ as “the arts and other manifestations of human intellectual achievement regarded collectively.” Continuously built on the…

Hajj Diaries – Was our Hajj accepted?

Part I / II / III / IV 13 DHUL HIJJAH Last night we came back to our hotel. There were hugs, mabrooks, and tears of joy. We were struck with a shocking realization – Allah subhana wa ta’ala granted us the ability to perform Hajj safely, without a pinch of difficulty and granted us tranquillity, …

Hajj Diaries – The Days of Dua

Part I / II / III / IV 11 Dhul Hijjah Alhamdulillah Allah subhan wa ta’ala made it so easy. I had heard many stories about the heat and difficulties of the Days of Hajj. Alhamdu lillah, ours was not one of them. On the Day of Arafat,  Rasul Allah (sa) sat on his camel under…

Hajj Diaries – Hearts around the Kabah

Part I / II / III / IV 3 Dhul Hijjah We are sitting in front of the Kabah, waiting for the onset of Fajr. On my right is an old khala sitting on a chair and reading duas from a paper. The only time our eyes met, she gave me a tight hug with…